How to Manage Your Energy as an Empath

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Energy doesn’t lie. Keep sensing it, trusting it, letting it liberate you.
— Judith Orloff, M.D

We are bombarded by countless models for self-improvement, time management, and how to be the CEO of our own lives, but what the highly-sensitive among us need to learn fast is that none of this stuff matters if we’re not managing our energy.

The rest of the world might be able to function at high speed and in utter chaos, but we can’t, and sooner or later our nervous systems will start letting us know.

Empathic people need to be grounded to thrive in the world and live an abundant and fulfilling life, but they can’t do this if their world is in disarray.

Taking responsibility for our energy means moving towards a 360 holistic approach to how we look after our emotional, physical, mental and spiritual health so that the rest of our lives can fall into order and flow.

We might have heard the phrase ‘manage your energy’ several times but what does this actually mean?

Here are some simple tips to start doing this as an empath:

1.     Have the courage to make space - If we’ve lived at full-throttle and packed our daily lives with constant social engagements, family visits, work and projects but have never actually made quality time to rest and take time for ourselves away from others, it’s only natural our energy will start to dwindle. Creating space starts with saying the word “No” more often and not giving into the ridiculous fear that we’ll be missing out. If our answer to the question “When was the last time you spent an afternoon by yourself?” is “I can’t remember” it means we’ve got some serious self-care to get stuck into. As natural givers, we can assume taking time for ourselves is selfish, it’s not. It’s essential so our energy can replenish. We can start by asking ourselves where we can make literal space in our calenders for a little regular date with ourselves, even if that just begins with making time for a long hot bath. It might mean cancelling plans or asking a partner for support with things we normally take care of, but it will be so worth it.

2.     Start meditating - Overwhelm is an Empath’s Achilles Heel if not managed and one of the best ways to avoid it is with meditation. I used to think meditation was boring. Even though I’d done trainings in it, I wasn’t ready to fully embody its principles at certain times in my life when it felt like there was always something more important that needed to be attended to. Now I KNOW that the busier I am, the MORE IMPORTANT it is that I meditate. Meditation creates space between our constant roller-coaster of thoughts and our often unwanted impulses and distractions. That space is valuable for highly-sensitive people so they can respond to the outside world instead of reacting to or running away from it. If we’ve mastered our minds and trained them to throw out the trash regularly, pretty much everything else will take care of itself. A short daily meditation practice will allow us to stay grounded, calm, centered and clear no matter what is happening in our external world. Check out the free Insight Timer app which holds a library of more than 6 million meditations in one place!

3.     Move the energy into the core and legs - Because of their tendency to over-analyse and live in their heads, anything a sensitive person can do to feel grounded in their bodies is beneficial. The more we can bring our energy down into our legs the better and stronger we’ll feel. If we’re inhabiting our bodies from the feet up, we’ll be able to use our powers more effectively, be more in-tune with our intuition and really start taking agency over ourselves and our lives. Great grounding practices are slow, strong movements like Tai Chi, yoga, breathwork that involves breathing into the core like breath of fire, weight lifting or running or walking in nature. Our core is also our power centre (Solar Plexus) and our truth-speaking area so strengthening this is key. Exercises like the plank, sit ups pull ups are brilliant core-reconnection exercises.

4.     Eat and drink in a nourishing way - Caffeine, alcohol, sugar and processed foods (sometimes even any slaughtered meat) are all going to trigger an empath and leave them feeling burned out, not to mention send their hormones and nervous systems into complete chaos. We’re feeling beings of pure energy so we need our systems and organs working at full throttle if we’re to do the work we’ve been put here to do. Everyone’s diet looks different and everyone must listen to what their body really needs, but generally eating the way we want to feel is a good marker. This means more greens, more juices, more natural and whole foods, more nourishing tonics, lots of water, plenty of electrolytes and lots of beautiful fermented foods for our gut. We’ll only get out what we put in and if we can begin to view food and drink as medicine, we’ll start to fully heal and thrive.

Keep being brave x